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Building Your Self Esteem
So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough
environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self
improvement.
Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may
become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your
self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them
destroy you, or get the best of you. So which dart pins should you avoid?
Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get
ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will
appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up
late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people
concerned. Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at
stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that
is.
Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people
walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers,
sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as
well as to your self improvement scheme.
Dart Pin #3: Changing Environment
You can’t be a green bug on a brown field. Changes challenge our paradigms. It
tests our flexibility, adaptability and alters the way we think. Changes will
make life difficult for awhile, it may cause stress but it will help us find
ways to improve our selves. Change will be there forever, we must be susceptible
to it.
Dart Pin #4: Past Experience
It’s okay to cry and say “ouch!” when we experience pain. But don’t let pain
transform itself into fear. It might grab you by the tail and swing you around.
Treat each failure and mistake as a lesson.
Dart Pin #5: Negative World View
Look at what you’re looking at. Don’t wrap yourself up with all the negativities
of the world. In building self esteem, we must learn how to make the best out of
worst situations.
Dart Pin #6: Determination Theory
The way you are and your behavioral traits is said to be a mixed end product of
your inherited traits (genetics), your upbringing (psychic), and your
environmental surroundings such as your spouse, the company, the economy or your
circle of friends. You have your own identity. If your father is a failure, it
doesn’t mean you have to be a failure too. Learn from other people’s experience,
so you’ll never have to encounter the same mistakes.
Sometimes, you may want to wonder if some people are born leaders or positive
thinkers. NO. Being positive, and staying positive is a choice. Building self
esteem and drawing lines for self improvement is a choice, not a rule or a
talent. God wouldn’t come down from heaven and tell you – “George, you may now
have the permission to build self esteem and improve your self.”
In life, its hard to stay tough specially when things and people around you keep
pulling you down. When we get to the battle field, we should choose the right
luggage to bring and armors to use, and pick those that are bullet proof. Life’s
options give us arrays of more options. Along the battle, we will get hit and
bruised. And wearing a bullet proof armor ideally means ‘self change’. The kind
of change which comes from within. Voluntarily. Armor or Self Change changes 3
things: our attitude, our behavior and our way of thinking.
Building self esteem will eventually lead to self improvement if we start to
become responsible for who we are, what we have and what we do. Its like a flame
that should gradually spread like a brush fire from inside and out. When we
develop self esteem, we take control of our mission, values and discipline. Self
esteem brings about self improvement, true assessment, and determination. So how
do you start putting up the building blocks of self esteem? Be positive. Be
contented and happy. Be appreciative. Never miss an opportunity to compliment. A
positive way of living will help you build self esteem, your starter guide to
self improvement.
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